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#1 User is offline   Fluffy 

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Posted 2012-December-23, 09:03

This will be my first christmas as a married man, my wife had been insisting that with all the economic problems we have we should avoid making any presents, wich I can't agree more, not because of the financial crisis, but because I hate shopping.

But yesterday she appeared with a gift "from santa" (or the spannish equivalent) for me, and makes it obvious that I should buy something for her. Wich means going shoppin on december 23rd, Sunday. Can there be a worse day for this?, but more important: should I had foreseen this coming?
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Posted 2012-December-23, 10:10

 Fluffy, on 2012-December-23, 09:03, said:

But yesterday she appeared with a gift "from santa" (or the spannish equivalent) for me, and makes it obvious that I should buy something for her. Wich means going shoppin on december 23rd, Sunday. Can there be a worse day for this?, but more important: should I had foreseen this coming?

Yes.

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Posted 2012-December-23, 10:26

 Fluffy, on 2012-December-23, 09:03, said:

This will be my first christmas as a married man, my wife had been insisting that with all the economic problems we have we should avoid making any presents, wich I can't agree more, not because of the financial crisis, but because I hate shopping.

But yesterday she appeared with a gift "from santa" (or the spannish equivalent) for me, and makes it obvious that I should buy something for her. Wich means going shoppin on december 23rd, Sunday. Can there be a worse day for this?, but more important: should I had foreseen this coming?


It is very important that men understand that when a woman says no she means no. Except when she says she doesn't want anything for her birthday or for Christmas.


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Posted 2012-December-23, 10:36

 kenberg, on 2012-December-23, 10:26, said:

Except when she says she doesn't want anything for her birthday or for Christmas.


Especially if she says its because we can't afford it.

But I think even asking the internet for advice on understanding the woman (or other significant other) in your life is likely to get the OP into more trouble.
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Posted 2012-December-23, 10:59

I expect there is a similar rant on forums.bridgewidows.com
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Posted 2012-December-23, 11:51

Yes, you have to buy her something. And yes, you should have seen it coming and be prepared.

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Also, he rates to not have a heart void when he leads the ♥3.


 rbforster, on 2012-May-20, 21:04, said:

Besides playing for fun, most people also like to play bridge to win


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Posted 2012-December-23, 12:05

How did she make it obvious?

Did you have the discussion 'we said we wouldn't buy anything'? If so what was her response?

Buy her flowers :)
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Posted 2012-December-23, 12:12

 Fluffy, on 2012-December-23, 09:03, said:

but more important: should I had foreseen this coming?


a) married < 6 months - Not necessarily

b) married 6-24 months - You should not be surprised at least

c) married > 2 years - You should, just in this second in which she said her statement about the gifts

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Posted 2012-December-23, 12:24

 Cascade, on 2012-December-23, 12:05, said:

How did she make it obvious?

Did you have the discussion 'we said we wouldn't buy anything'? If so what was her response?

Buy her flowers :)

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Posted 2012-December-23, 12:46

 Cascade, on 2012-December-23, 12:05, said:

How did she make it obvious?
It was something like.... may I open that? not untill you buy something for me.
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Posted 2012-December-23, 13:13

 Fluffy, on 2012-December-23, 12:46, said:

It was something like.... may I open that? not untill you buy something for me.

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Posted 2012-December-23, 14:20

 jillybean, on 2012-December-23, 12:24, said:

FYP

Buy her diamonds :)


Yes, it is important to get the woman's view on these things. :)
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Posted 2012-December-23, 14:39

I mentioned OP's predicament to 4 women today. The consensus is that "no presents" means "not a lot of presents or no expensive presents". They suggested lingerie, a silk or wool scarf, a cute hat, chocolates or perfume.
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Posted 2012-December-23, 16:50

Take it to the lolwomen containment thread
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Posted 2012-December-23, 21:43

 Fluffy, on 2012-December-23, 09:03, said:

should I had foreseen this coming?

Every year there's usually a couple of Xmas episodes of TV shows (usually sitcoms) where the couple agree not to buy presents. What happened to you always happens to them. Who says TV isn't an educational medium?

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Posted 2012-December-24, 04:44

You had it coming :) To quote her next move: "Nothing doesn't mean nothing at all, right?"
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Posted 2012-December-24, 09:55

This is right up there with "Does this make me look fat?"
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Posted 2012-December-24, 10:16

 ggwhiz, on 2012-December-24, 09:55, said:

This is right up there with "Does this make me look fat?"
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Posted 2012-December-24, 15:45

1. You have a very understanding wife - she was aware that she should indicate her understanding of the deal a couple of days before. And she knew subtle hints would not be enough. You should be grateful!

2. I assume you realize this lesson doesn't only apply to Christmas. If she "really doesn't want anything" for your anniversary, she still won't mind large, beautiful bouquet of flowers, and you coming up with an enjoyable plan for the day.
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Posted 2012-December-24, 16:30

Lol poor fluffy, yes you should have seen this coming. GL man.
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