AL78, on 2022-July-08, 15:05, said:
That's nothing. Here is one of the first boards we played:
Partner's inexperience meant she didn't appreciate I was competing, not inviting so we got 25% for going one off. When we sat out, I explained the differences between raises with and without competition, and the other options I have if I wanted to invite game.
It wasn’t your partner’s fault
You had zero business bidding 3S
Yes, it’s competitive and not a game try, but it does show a better playing hand than you held….including almost always six spade.in that context, your partner had massive undisclosed values
Was 4S an error? Arguably since the diamond queen is wasted. But might you not have something like AKxxxx Axx x Qxx?
Personally, I think 4S is wrong simply because I don’t think that it’s clear (at all) that game rates to have play opposite many ‘correct’ 3S bid, but I’d say it was close
Your 3S, otoh, was grotesque.
xxx in diamonds with a diamond lead? Only 5 spades? Wtf were you thinking?
Pass!
Your partner, with five trump (rather than the three she might have had) and an undoubtedly working stiff in hearts and an Ace….it’s her job to bid 3S, not yours.
You got what you deserved for bidding your partner’s hand rather than the one you held.
Saying ‘pass’ when you’ve already shown your hand can be tough. But you will never become a competent player until you learn discipline
I know it’s difficult when, as you do, you play with weak players. However, any good player who sees you consistently make this kind of bid will be reluctant to play with you. Plus you’re not helping your inexperienced partner by telling her that 3S was just competitive, making it all her fault. I’d place the blame at about 95-5 on you, and am being generous to you in doing so.
So you pass and maybe she passes as well….now that’s a legitimate teaching moment. Of course, she may surprise you by bidding 3S and then both of you can take credit for a well bid board.
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